Zero
July 8, 2009
I, like many others in their early/mid twenties, have stayed in touch with school friends long after the end of days. It’s nice to have these people to reminisce with, share stories with and relive youth with.
On the other hand, what are you supposed to do when you realise that maybe you don’t have anything in common anymore? Conversations are filled with uncomfortable silences rather than the laughter that once filled the air? What do you do when you know it’s not working but because of these extenuating circumstances and desperation to cling onto memories of youth you feel guilted into remaining a friend to this person? When you’re not putting your heart into the friendship and you spend more time being annoyed with the person and their behaviour? When you realise that you have never had anything but being a teenager/schoolgoer/girl in common with them?
Answer me that, folks, and I’ll be a happy girl.
Just act really obnoxious, until they get fed up and no longer want to be friends.
Failing that, just make less and less effort until they take the hint and stop calling.
Either that or make a pass at them.
Facebook. Maintains the illusion of friendship whilst not completely disassociating oneself from the possibility of brief intermittent contact. Effectively reduces personal physical contact to the virtual, thereby freeing you up to reduce effort further, as nondisbeliever suggests above, until contact all but ceases. *cough*
Or emigrate.
Honestly? Keep it brief for now, but keep it friendly because you never know when you might need a friend, perhaps even that friend in particular. Only burn bridges when necessary–age and experience speaking here.
I hate when people think you like them but you actually don’t, but you’ve let them think you do so you’re trapped!! It’s a vicious circle.